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Ain't Misbehavin'.
What We've Got Here is Failure to Communicate.
Ain't misbehavin'. Well, maybe a little bit...But apparently, what we've really got here is a failure to communicate. It always surprises me when I'm reminded of the way men and women approach the world: from two opposite ends of the spectrum. Consistently failing to communicate, either verbally or through actions. One thing this apparent breakdown in communication never fails to do is offend the other person. I was fortunate enough to be enlightened yesterday by a member of the opposite sex as to what men apparently really want from us women, including: that we learn how to cook, consistently wax, purchase matching sets of underwear and go to the gym. Seems like a pretty simple set of instructions. Unfortunately, women approach relationships from an emotional frame of reference. No simple set of instructions there. We want to feel appreciated and accepted for who we are. Allowed to be ourselves. Adored. At the very least, and I'm talking bare minimum here, is it too much to ask for a phone call the next day? To compliment our outfit occasionally? To notice when we get a hair cut? Doesn't seem too difficult to me...but hey, what do I know?
Believing that this lack of communication can be solved overnight is akin to believing in the tooth fairy. However, a step in the right direction might be to simply ask the other person what's important to them. Here's a novel idea: actually talk to each other. Find out each other's hot buttons and make every effort to avoid stepping on landmines. How many arguments have you witnessed that could have been avoided by the "happy" couple merely taking the time to actually talk to the other person? How many hurt feelings might have been avoided by asking a question rather than charging full speed ahead. I mean, this isn't rocket surgery here...not like we're curing cancer. So, the next time we set out to do what we "think" the other person wants from us, probably the best approach might be to actually hear it from the horse's mouth. Ask a simple question as opposed to making assumptions. So quit blaming your issues on the "missbehavin' ways" of your significant other. Maybe they don't even realize that their actions are offending you. Have your own "state of the union address" and actually lay your issues out on the table. Doing so will surely save yourselves, your friends, your family, and us all precious time, effort and heartache in the end...Not to mention the avoidance of your very own, personalized Civil War right there in your own backyard, er bedroom. Cause what's so civil about war, anyway?
And while you're at it, watch the following scene from Cool Hand Luke:
And this: Avoiding Civil War: Guns N Roses, Civil War. Cause Axl doesn't need your Civil War. And neither do we.
What We've Got Here is Failure to Communicate.
Ain't misbehavin'. Well, maybe a little bit...But apparently, what we've really got here is a failure to communicate. It always surprises me when I'm reminded of the way men and women approach the world: from two opposite ends of the spectrum. Consistently failing to communicate, either verbally or through actions. One thing this apparent breakdown in communication never fails to do is offend the other person. I was fortunate enough to be enlightened yesterday by a member of the opposite sex as to what men apparently really want from us women, including: that we learn how to cook, consistently wax, purchase matching sets of underwear and go to the gym. Seems like a pretty simple set of instructions. Unfortunately, women approach relationships from an emotional frame of reference. No simple set of instructions there. We want to feel appreciated and accepted for who we are. Allowed to be ourselves. Adored. At the very least, and I'm talking bare minimum here, is it too much to ask for a phone call the next day? To compliment our outfit occasionally? To notice when we get a hair cut? Doesn't seem too difficult to me...but hey, what do I know?
Believing that this lack of communication can be solved overnight is akin to believing in the tooth fairy. However, a step in the right direction might be to simply ask the other person what's important to them. Here's a novel idea: actually talk to each other. Find out each other's hot buttons and make every effort to avoid stepping on landmines. How many arguments have you witnessed that could have been avoided by the "happy" couple merely taking the time to actually talk to the other person? How many hurt feelings might have been avoided by asking a question rather than charging full speed ahead. I mean, this isn't rocket surgery here...not like we're curing cancer. So, the next time we set out to do what we "think" the other person wants from us, probably the best approach might be to actually hear it from the horse's mouth. Ask a simple question as opposed to making assumptions. So quit blaming your issues on the "missbehavin' ways" of your significant other. Maybe they don't even realize that their actions are offending you. Have your own "state of the union address" and actually lay your issues out on the table. Doing so will surely save yourselves, your friends, your family, and us all precious time, effort and heartache in the end...Not to mention the avoidance of your very own, personalized Civil War right there in your own backyard, er bedroom. Cause what's so civil about war, anyway?
And while you're at it, watch the following scene from Cool Hand Luke:
And this: Avoiding Civil War: Guns N Roses, Civil War. Cause Axl doesn't need your Civil War. And neither do we.
Ladies respond: "I just went to the gym and got waxed. Hoping if you build it they will come."
ReplyDeleteMen respond: "At least my panties are nice enough to get in a bunch."