Saturday, March 17, 2012

Since I Don't Have You.

Since I don't have you...listen to this song and read the following:

Did you know that a member of that band, The Skyliners, killed herself because of a combination of the pressure of the band and the fact that she was in an abusive relationship? Simply cracked under the pressure...decided the best way out was through carbon monoxide poisoning.   A friend of mine is friends with her son. Happened when he was only 8. Grew up in Pittsburgh. Guess that's where the band was based. Incredibly tragic. He is currently filming a movie about growing up in that environment. Called "Since I Don't Have You". Gavin Rapp is his name. 

I suspect it was more the abusive relationship than the band that pushed her over the edge... Makes me consider the ramifications of abuse. And the serious topic of the day ensues...We've all been in situations where we've felt trapped, like there's no way out. I think that's where my mild case of claustrophobia stems. But here's the reality of the situation. Going to finally set the record straight. There's always a way. Where there's a will...There's never any reason to put up with abuse. For any reason. At any time. Ever. Especially for an extended period. Hence the whole anti-bullying campaign that is sweeping the nation.

This is important, so pay attention. Pick up what I'm throwing down here: You may feel broken down, you may even feel like you deserve it in some twisted way. But folks, I'm here to tell you the truth. You don't. No one does and that includes you. Here's an analogy for you that I will borrow from a book I read recently. Birds fly south for the winter, but some choose to stay in the frigid north. In the freezing cold. And no one knows why. They stay, shivering in misery for months and months until springtime comes round again...if they manage to survive. The reason remains a mystery. They have wings just like everyone else. Why not fly?  They choose to remain in their own life of suffering in the cold, versus flying down to the sunny warm south. And so do people who stay in abusive, toxic relationships.

So, the lesson here is the following: Don't be the bird that stays. Choose to rescue yourself, and choose life. I don't care if it takes a CIA special operative to get you out. Youve probably thought of a million and one reasons why it's impossible, but, to borrow a quote from the infamous, Alesky Veynor, impossible is nothing. And from Nike, Just do it. Make it happen, captain. Today. No better time than the present. And live a little. It's time for YOUR day in the sun. Because YOU deserve it.
The only way to go from here is up. And south to warmer weather....so, Go.

And while you're at it, be sure to read the sage writing on the wall of this bathroom stall and remember the following: you are not alone. aloon. or aloan. Ever.

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